Attachment Trauma Counseling in New Jersey & Pennsylvania

If closeness feels overwhelming—or like it always slips away—you may be carrying the impact of early attachment wounds. I help adults in NJ & PA heal from these patterns so they can feel safer, more secure, and more connected in relationships.

Why Attachment Wounds Make Relationships Feel So Hard

When your earliest relationships lacked safety, consistency, or emotional attunement, your nervous system learned to protect you. Maybe by staying small, staying busy, keeping the peace, or never relying on anyone at all. These survival strategies worked then—but now they can leave you feeling stuck, anxious, or alone in adulthood.

Common struggles attachment trauma creates:

  • Anxiety about being “too much” or “not enough”

  • Avoiding intimacy or pulling away when things get close

  • Attracting emotionally unavailable partners

  • People-pleasing or silencing yourself to avoid conflict

  • Feeling lonely—even in committed relationships

Understanding Your Attachment Style

Everyone develops patterns of connection, often shaped by early caregiving experiences. Therapy can help you understand yours and move toward secure, healthy bonds.

  • Anxious Attachment: Worrying people will leave, needing reassurance, and fearing abandonment.

  • Avoidant Attachment: Craving independence, pulling back when things get close, or struggling to rely on others.

  • Disorganized Attachment: Longing for closeness but fearing it at the same time, creating push-pull dynamics.

  • Earned Secure Attachment: With support and healing, it’s possible to build safety, trust, and deeper connection.

Exploring your attachment style in therapy can help you see patterns clearly, understand where they come from, and take the first steps toward change.

How Attachment-Focused Therapy Helps

Healing attachment wounds isn’t about erasing your past—it’s about creating safety and freedom in your present. In attachment trauma counseling in NJ & PA, we’ll work together to:

  • Recognize and shift the patterns that keep you stuck.

  • Heal past wounds so they no longer run your relationships.

  • Build trust in your voice and needs.

  • Practice setting healthy boundaries without guilt.

  • Strengthen your capacity for closeness—at your pace.

I integrate Attachment-Focused EMDR, DBT skills, and trauma-informed relational therapy to help you process what you’ve been carrying while building new ways to connect.

Counseling Options in NJ & PA

I offer therapy that meets you where you are—whether you need ongoing support or deeper, focused healing.

  1. Weekly Therapy (NJ & PA, online or in-person): Ongoing support to heal attachment wounds and strengthen emotional resilience.

  2. Trauma Therapy Intensives (NJ & PA, online or in-person): Half- or full-day sessions for accelerated healing, with workbook support and follow-ups.

Both options give you space to finally slow down, feel safe, and begin healing from attachment trauma.

You Don’t Have to Keep Carrying This Alone

Taking the first step toward healing can feel overwhelming, uncertain, or even scary—but you don’t have to do it alone. Support is here when you're ready.

Scheduling a free phone consultation is a great way to see if we’re the right fit.

Email me at siobhan@siobhanstrickhart.com or call/text (908) 524-1878 to take the first step.

You deserve support, and I’m here to help.