Stop Managing Relationship Anxiety.
Start Healing It.
Attachment-Focused Therapy for Adults in New Jersey & Pennsylvania
If relationships leave you anxious, guarded, or emotionally exhausted—even when you deeply want connection—this isn’t a willpower issue.
Relationship anxiety often comes from a nervous system that learned closeness wasn’t consistently safe. Therapy here focuses on helping your body feel security, not just understand it.
Specialized attachment therapy for adults in NJ & PA who are ready to feel secure, grounded, and truly seen.
If relationships leave you anxious, guarded, or emotionally exhausted—even when you deeply want connection—this isn’t a willpower issue.
Relationship anxiety often comes from a nervous system that learned closeness wasn’t consistently safe. Therapy here focuses on helping your body feel security, not just understand it.
Specialized attachment therapy for adults in NJ & PA who are ready to feel secure, grounded, and truly seen.
Does Your Relationship Feel Like a “Push–Pull” Dynamic?
You may crave closeness—yet feel overwhelmed, shut down, or panicked once intimacy actually happens.
Attachment patterns aren’t personality traits.
They are your nervous system’s blueprint for survival.
If emotional safety or consistency was unpredictable earlier in life, adult relationships can feel confusing and destabilizing—even when nothing is “wrong.”
You Might Recognize Yourself in These Patterns:
The Anxious Loop
You worry about being “too much,” abandoned, or replaced—so you overthink, over-explain, or over-accommodate.
The Avoidant Shield
You value independence and self-reliance, but feel trapped or suffocated when someone needs emotional closeness.
The Invisible Wall
You want intimacy, yet your body shuts down, gets irritable, or feels “prickly” when connection deepens.
These responses aren’t failures.
They’re learned protections.
What Is Attachment-Focused Therapy?
Attachment-focused therapy isn’t about blaming your past—it’s about updating your present.
We look at how early relational experiences shaped your nervous system’s expectations of closeness, conflict, and safety, then work gently to create new patterns that feel steadier and more secure.
In Our Work Together, We Will:
1. Identify Your System
Understand why your body reacts with panic, withdrawal, or shutdown in relationships.
2. Soothe the Alarm
Use trauma-informed tools to calm the nervous system responses that get activated during conflict or vulnerability.
3. Build “Earned Security”
Develop communication, boundary, and emotional regulation skills that make closeness feel safer—not threatening.
This work happens at the pace your system can tolerate.
There’s no forcing, fixing, or reliving for the sake of insight.
From Exhaustion to Ease
The Shift Toward Secure Attachment
Clients often move:
FROM overthinking every text or interaction
TO trusting themselves and the relationshipFROM “I don’t need anyone”
TO “I can rely on others and still be me”FROM emotional burnout
TO relationships that actually give energy instead of draining it
Healing attachment wounds doesn’t mean losing independence.
It means gaining choice.
You Weren’t Meant to Do This Alone
Secure connection is a biological need—not a luxury.
If relationships feel like your biggest source of stress, support is possible. Therapy can help your nervous system learn that closeness doesn’t have to equal danger.
I work with adults throughout New Jersey and Pennsylvania via secure telehealth.
Book a Free Consultation
No obligation.
Just a conversation to see if this feels like the right fit.